Having experienced all of those, I still can't count any of them as being part of being female. They are possible experiences if one is female, and pregnancy/childbirth is (so far) only possible for a female (the man who gave birth did so with an actual womb and working vagina. he can call himself a man, but he couldn't give birth as one.) Anyway, those experiences aren't part of my sense of myself as a woman. Neither is shaving my legs, wearing lingerie, and putting on make-up, which I sometimes like to do but don't feel obligated to do. My transgendered friend likes all the frou frou stuff best of all.