You are a charming, witty, funny, fun, all around awesome person in real life, and any real person would feel the same. If someone doesn't see that, then they aren't a real person and all, and fuck them. I know that's not really a constructive attitude to propose to combat social phobia, but what the hell, it's the truth. There's nothing you're going to be able to do for those people, and absolutely nothing at all they can do to you. :)