Found it!

[dreamer_easy]

Nisi Shawl's Transracial Writing for the Sincere, archived at the Wayback Machine. (Alas! The Speculations Web site is no more.)

Turns out Ms Shawl has also co-written a book on the subject: Writing The Other, which is available from the publishers for a pittance ($9).

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a little off topic I suppose - and a bit of a 'how NOT to write the other' - hae you read Said's Orientalism or Reporting Islam ?

[kateorman.livejournal.com]

OMG I SO NEED TO READ "ORIENTALISM". SO SO SO MUCH. *collapses under a pile of unread books*

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:)
I struggled through it many years ago - his writing on Israel/Palestine is also just bloody wonderful (and a damn site easier to get through)