That's very true, they expect the kid to "accept it" and not fight back. It's this darwinist attitude some parents and even teachers seem to go by. You're not part of the club unless you're bullied, and since everyone goes though it they expect kids to tough it out. I can't count the times I've heard, well we've all been bullied, your kid is over reacting and needs to suck it up, from people.
But yes, fighting back always causes a WTF attitude. Especially if you do it in a way that deflates the bully. In my public high school (I left the catholic one due to escaping bullies), I joined peer group consoling. They mixed the kids up so cliques were broken up. It forced the students to look at each other as, well people, so they'd police each other with bullying. It was pretty neat having hot football players stick up for you..... :) After that my bullies in Columbia kept their mouths shut....
I am trying to arrange the same program at Cp's school. The only way to fight bulling is to convince the students the other person is human, and that it's not cool to bully via peer pressure....
That's a very clever tactic. Online bullies would never have the guts to say the same things to an actual person as they do to some words on a screen - let alone a person that they knew, even if only slightly.
I've set up my email filter to kill anonymous lj comments. I don't even know they've been made, they just disappear invisibly. It's a small weight off my mind. :)
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Re: Sorry it took so long to respond.
Date: 2009-12-16 12:59 am (UTC)But yes, fighting back always causes a WTF attitude. Especially if you do it in a way that deflates the bully. In my public high school (I left the catholic one due to escaping bullies), I joined peer group consoling. They mixed the kids up so cliques were broken up. It forced the students to look at each other as, well people, so they'd police each other with bullying. It was pretty neat having hot football players stick up for you..... :) After that my bullies in Columbia kept their mouths shut....
I am trying to arrange the same program at Cp's school. The only way to fight bulling is to convince the students the other person is human, and that it's not cool to bully via peer pressure....
Re: Sorry it took so long to respond.
Date: 2009-12-16 03:19 am (UTC)Re: Sorry it took so long to respond.
Date: 2009-12-17 01:16 am (UTC)Yeah, I've had my tussles with Cyber bullies, you get a ton of them in fandom, especially when they troll for trouble.
Re: Sorry it took so long to respond.
Date: 2009-12-18 02:36 am (UTC)Re: Sorry it took so long to respond.
Date: 2009-12-20 01:34 am (UTC)